Life produces its own constraints. Many of us can’t deal with these very comfortably. I’ll tell you why.
We claim that the most central thing about the human being, is spontaneity and creativity. There’s no culture that lays stress upon spontaneity and creativity of the individual. Children have a lot of it, and they get squelched somewhere along the way, distorted, pushed under, rejected. We greatly believe in teaching children to have good motor control, memory, and we measure their intelligence. But what about their spontaneity? There are people who are very highly intelligent and yet have very little spontaneity and creativity. It’s a twin principle: the child represents for us spontaneity. Saying “yes!” to life. Wanting to live life. If you watch a small child, they’re full of life. We stop them from making noises, from stamping, from laughing, even though this is the way they live. But we don’t understand it very well. We want them to conform and to behave and to be like all the other nice people in the world. And so what happens to many of us is that we have to work very hard as we get older, to recapture that beginning of our selves.